The toughest part of the pregnancy for me is not knowing what I don't
know. I am not in control of anything, which is pretty metaphorical if
you ask me. My bladder, my bowels, my gag reflex- all of it is so
foreign to me right now. And no one can tell me how my body is going
to react to all of this. When you take those things and add the tough
questions you get, and decisions you have to make, it can be very
intimidating. In our last doctor visit, Jeff and I were asked if we
wanted the testing for down's syndrome. Apparently they use these
tests because some people choose to terminate the pregnancy or are
anxious to prepare. We both stared at each other. We didn't know this
question was coming, so we hadn't discussed it. We said we would do
it. We got home and discussed it, and decided that we would raise
whatever gift God gives us. The test is not always accurate so even
the talk of preparation is moot. I foresee many more moments like
these where we don't know the answer and need to discuss. The good
thing about us is that we may not get it right initially, but we
always figure it out long term. Good night all!
I'm glad you voted against the test. I also believe that you take the hand God gives you. If a test would have told me the problems that Hunter would have when he was born, then I still would have had him. I believe that's why he was born so early, because if I would have went full term he could have had more brain damage than he did, so I'm thankful for that. Also, I was told by my doctor, when I was pregnant with the little boy that I lost, that test can actually cause a miscarriage. Of course that was 14 years ago, so things may have changed since then, but since I was high risk, he told me that test was out of the question. I'm so excited for you guys. I wish you the best of luck with the whole thing. I will be praying for you, Jeff and your little nugget.
ReplyDeleteGood job answering your first parenting task!! There are more screeings that they will offer you regarding possible complications with the baby. If you look at the What to Expect book you can get a specific list. I declined all of the genetic screens, with the same attitude as yours. I think all we did was the glucose testing and ultrasound.
ReplyDeleteMy favorite fun book to read was The girlfriends guide to pregnanacy - it gives you the "real" story from your girlfriends point of view. I can't believe you nicknamed your blessing nugget - I love it!!!
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Hey - I forgot to say enjoy the pregnancy - if you take all the tests and find out something 'may' be wrong it will put a damper on the joy you will feel for the next 8 months!! Just my 2 cents.
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